The Good Of The Wicked Parashat Vayeitzei 5779

(יז) וַיָּ֖קָם יַעֲקֹ֑ב וַיִּשָּׂ֛א אֶת־בָּנָ֥יו וְאֶת־נָשָׁ֖יו עַל־הַגְּמַלִּֽים׃ (יח) וַיִּנְהַ֣ג אֶת־כָּל־מִקְנֵ֗הוּ וְאֶת־כָּל־רְכֻשׁוֹ֙ אֲשֶׁ֣ר רָכָ֔שׁ מִקְנֵה֙ קִנְיָנ֔וֹ אֲשֶׁ֥ר רָכַ֖שׁ בְּפַדַּ֣ן אֲרָ֑ם לָב֛וֹא אֶל־יִצְחָ֥ק אָבִ֖יו אַ֥רְצָה כְּנָֽעַן׃ (יט) וְלָבָ֣ן הָלַ֔ךְ לִגְזֹ֖ז אֶת־צֹאנ֑וֹ וַתִּגְנֹ֣ב רָחֵ֔ל אֶת־הַתְּרָפִ֖ים אֲשֶׁ֥ר לְאָבִֽיהָ׃ (כ) וַיִּגְנֹ֣ב יַעֲקֹ֔ב אֶת־לֵ֥ב לָבָ֖ן הָאֲרַמִּ֑י עַל־בְּלִי֙ הִגִּ֣יד ל֔וֹ כִּ֥י בֹרֵ֖חַ הֽוּא׃ (כא) וַיִּבְרַ֥ח הוּא֙ וְכָל־אֲשֶׁר־ל֔וֹ וַיָּ֖קָם וַיַּעֲבֹ֣ר אֶת־הַנָּהָ֑ר וַיָּ֥שֶׂם אֶת־פָּנָ֖יו הַ֥ר הַגִּלְעָֽד׃ (כב) וַיֻּגַּ֥ד לְלָבָ֖ן בַּיּ֣וֹם הַשְּׁלִישִׁ֑י כִּ֥י בָרַ֖ח יַעֲקֹֽב׃ (כג) וַיִּקַּ֤ח אֶת־אֶחָיו֙ עִמּ֔וֹ וַיִּרְדֹּ֣ף אַחֲרָ֔יו דֶּ֖רֶךְ שִׁבְעַ֣ת יָמִ֑ים וַיַּדְבֵּ֥ק אֹת֖וֹ בְּהַ֥ר הַגִּלְעָֽד׃ (כד) וַיָּבֹ֧א אֱלֹהִ֛ים אֶל־לָבָ֥ן הָאֲרַמִּ֖י בַּחֲלֹ֣ם הַלָּ֑יְלָה וַיֹּ֣אמֶר ל֗וֹ הִשָּׁ֧מֶר לְךָ֛ פֶּן־תְּדַבֵּ֥ר עִֽם־יַעֲקֹ֖ב מִטּ֥וֹב עַד־רָֽע׃

Genesis 31:17-24

(17) Thereupon Jacob put his children and wives on camels; (18) and he drove off all his livestock and all the wealth that he had amassed, the livestock in his possession that he had acquired in Paddan-aram, to go to his father Isaac in the land of Canaan. (19) Meanwhile Laban had gone to shear his sheep, and Rachel stole her father’s household idols. (20) Jacob kept Laban the Aramean in the dark, not telling him that he was fleeing, (21) and fled with all that he had. Soon he was across the Euphrates and heading toward the hill country of Gilead. (22) On the third day, Laban was told that Jacob had fled. (23) So he took his kinsmen with him and pursued him a distance of seven days, catching up with him in the hill country of Gilead. (24) But God appeared to Laban the Aramean in a dream by night and said to him, “Beware of attempting anything with Jacob, good or bad.”

רש"י על בראשית ל״א:כ״ד

(א) מטוב עד רע. כָּל טוֹבָתָן שֶׁל רְשָׁעִים רָעָה הִיא אֵצֶל הַצַּדִּיקִים (יבמות ק"ג):

Rashi on Genesis 31:24

(1) מטוב עד רע EITHER GOOD OR EVIL — why should he not speak good? Because all the good that the wicked do to the righteous is evil in the opinion of the righteous (Yevamot 103b).

יבמות ק״ג ב:א׳

רעה היא אצל צדיקים שנא' (בראשית לא, כד) השמר לך פן תדבר עם יעקב מטוב עד רע בשלמא רע לחיי אלא טוב אמאי לא אלא ש"מ טובתן של רשעים רעה היא אצל צדיקים

Yevamot 103b:1

is a disadvantage for the righteous, as a righteous individual gains no pleasure from this so-called beneficial act. As it is stated by God to Laban: “Take heed to yourself that you speak not to Jacob either good or bad” (Genesis 31:24). Granted, speak no bad; this is rightly so, i.e., understandable. But speak no good? Why not? Rather, learn from here that even something that would be a good benefit to the wicked like Laban, is a disadvantage for the righteous.

Shlomo Yitzchaki (Hebrew: רבי שלמה יצחקי‬‎) 22 February 1040 – 13 July 1105, today generally known by the acronym Rashi (Hebrew: רש"י‬, RAbbi SHlomo Itzhaki), was a medieval French rabbi and author of a comprehensive commentary on the Talmud and commentary on the Tanakh. Acclaimed for his ability to present the basic meaning of the text in a concise and lucid fashion, Rashi appeals to both learned scholars and beginner students, and his works remain a centerpiece of contemporary Jewish study.
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What are some ways that Laban 'speaking good' to Jacob would be seen as evil by someone who is righteous?

What are some examples today of things that sound good to the wicked but evil to the righteous?

חפץ חיים, חלק ראשון: הלכות איסורי לשון הרע, כלל ט א׳

(א) (א) יֵשׁ דְּבָרִים שֶׁאֲסוּרִין מִטַּעַם אֲבַק לָשׁוֹן הָרָע, כְּגוֹן שֶׁאוֹמֵר, מִי הָיָה אוֹמֵר עַל פְּלוֹנִי, שֶׁיִּהְיֶה כְּמוֹ שֶׁהוּא עַתָּה אוֹ שֶׁאוֹמֵר, שִׁתְקוּ מִפְּלוֹנִי, (ב) אֵינִי רוֹצֶּה לְהוֹדִיעַ מָה אֵרַע וּמַה יִּהְיֶה, וְכַיּוֹצֵּא בִּדְבָרִים אֵלּוּ. וְכֵן הַמְסַפֵּר (ג) בְּשִׁבְחוֹ שֶׁל חֲבֵרוֹ בִּפְנִי שׂוֹנְאָיו, גַּם כֵּן בִּכְלַל אֲבַק לָשׁוֹן הָרָע הוּא, דְּזֶה גּוֹרֵם לָהֶם, שֶׁיְּסַפְּרוּ בִּגְנוּתוֹ* . וְאִם (ה) הוּא מַרְבֶּה לְסַפֵּר בְּשִׁבְחוֹ, אֲפִלּוּ שֶׁלֹּא בִּפְנֵי שׂוֹנְאָיו אָסוּר, כִּי עַל יְדֵי זֶה רָגִיל בְּעַצְמוֹ לְגַנּוֹתוֹ לְבַסוֹף לוֹמַר: חוּץ מִמִּדָּה רָעָה זוֹ שֶׁיֵּשׁ לוֹ, אוֹ שֶׁהַשּׁוֹמְעִין יְשִׁיבוּהוּ: לָמָּה אַתָּה מַרְבֶּה בְּשִׁבְחוֹ וַהֲלֹא מִדַּת כָּךְ וְכָךְ בְּיָדוֹ?

(ב) *ומזה נלמד דהוא הדין לכל כיוצא בזה, אם רוצה לדבר עם אחד אודות מי, והוא משער שאין לבו שלם עם אותו פלוני, (ד) ויבוא על ידי זה לגנותו, דאסור לדבר עמו אודותיו.

Chafetz Chaim, Part One, The Prohibition Against Lashon Hara, Principle 9 1

(1) There are things which are forbidden because of the "dust" of lashon hara. As when one says about another: "Who would have said about Ploni that he would be the way he is now!" or "Don't talk about Ploni. I don't want to talk about what happened or what will happen," and the like. Also in the category of the "dust" of lashon hara is speaking in one's praise before his enemies; for this will cause them to speak demeaningly of him. And it is forbidden to be profuse in praise of him, even if not before his enemies; for through this he will come to demean him in the end, saying: "except for this one bad trait that he has." Or the listeners will say: "Why do you speak so much in his praise? Does he not have this and this trait?"

Rabbi Israel Meir (HaKohen) Kagan known popularly as the Chofetz Chaim (Hebrew: חפץ חיים, Hafetz Chaim), the name of his famous work on guarding one's tongue (b. January 26, 1839/11 Shevat 5599 Zdzięcioł, Poland d. September 15, 1933/24 Elul 5693 Radun, Poland) was an influential rabbi of the Musar movement, a Halakhist, posek, and ethicist whose works continue to be widely influential in Jewish life. His house became known as the Radin Yeshiva.
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