((כה) וַיִּוָּתֵ֥ר יַעֲקֹ֖ב לְבַדּ֑וֹ וַיֵּאָבֵ֥ק אִישׁ֙ עִמּ֔וֹ עַ֖ד עֲל֥וֹת הַשָּֽׁחַר׃ (כו) וַיַּ֗רְא כִּ֣י לֹ֤א יָכֹל֙ ל֔וֹ וַיִּגַּ֖ע בְּכַף־יְרֵכ֑וֹ וַתֵּ֙קַע֙ כַּף־יֶ֣רֶךְ יַעֲקֹ֔ב בְּהֵֽאָבְק֖וֹ עִמּֽוֹ׃
(כז) וַיֹּ֣אמֶר שַׁלְּחֵ֔נִי כִּ֥י עָלָ֖ה הַשָּׁ֑חַר וַיֹּ֙אמֶר֙ לֹ֣א אֲשַֽׁלֵּחֲךָ֔ כִּ֖י אִם־בֵּרַכְתָּֽנִי׃ (כח) וַיֹּ֥אמֶר אֵלָ֖יו מַה־שְּׁמֶ֑ךָ וַיֹּ֖אמֶר יַעֲקֹֽב׃ (כט) וַיֹּ֗אמֶר לֹ֤א יַעֲקֹב֙ יֵאָמֵ֥ר עוֹד֙ שִׁמְךָ֔ כִּ֖י אִם־יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל כִּֽי־שָׂרִ֧יתָ עִם־אֱלֹקִ֛ים וְעִם־אֲנָשִׁ֖ים וַתּוּכָֽל׃
(ל) וַיִּשְׁאַ֣ל יַעֲקֹ֗ב וַיֹּ֙אמֶר֙ הַגִּֽידָה־נָּ֣א שְׁמֶ֔ךָ וַיֹּ֕אמֶר לָ֥מָּה זֶּ֖ה תִּשְׁאַ֣ל לִשְׁמִ֑י וַיְבָ֥רֶךְ אֹת֖וֹ שָֽׁם׃ (לא) וַיִּקְרָ֧א יַעֲקֹ֛ב שֵׁ֥ם הַמָּק֖וֹם פְּנִיאֵ֑ל כִּֽי־רָאִ֤יתִי אֱלֹקִים֙ פָּנִ֣ים אֶל־פָּנִ֔ים וַתִּנָּצֵ֖ל נַפְשִֽׁי׃
(לב) וַיִּֽזְרַֽח־ל֣וֹ הַשֶּׁ֔מֶשׁ כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר עָבַ֖ר אֶת־פְּנוּאֵ֑ל וְה֥וּא צֹלֵ֖עַ עַל־יְרֵכֽוֹ׃ (לג) עַל־כֵּ֡ן לֹֽא־יֹאכְל֨וּ בְנֵֽי־יִשְׂרָאֵ֜ל אֶת־גִּ֣יד הַנָּשֶׁ֗ה אֲשֶׁר֙ עַל־כַּ֣ף הַיָּרֵ֔ךְ עַ֖ד הַיּ֣וֹם הַזֶּ֑ה כִּ֤י נָגַע֙ בְּכַף־יֶ֣רֶךְ יַעֲקֹ֔ב בְּגִ֖יד הַנָּשֶֽׁה׃
(25) Jacob was left alone. And a man/ish wrestled with him until the break of dawn. (26) When he saw that he had not prevailed against him, he wrenched Jacob’s hip at its socket, so that the socket of his hip was strained as he wrestled with him.
(27) Then he said, “Let me go, for dawn is breaking.” But he answered, “I will not let you go, unless you bless me.” (28) Said the other, “What is your name?” He replied, “Jacob.”
(29) Said he, “Your name shall no longer be Jacob, but Israel, for you have striven with beings divine and human, and have prevailed.”
(30) Jacob asked, “Pray tell me your name.” But he said, “You must not ask my name!” And he took leave of him there. (31) So Jacob named the place Peniel, meaning, “I have seen a divine being face to face, yet my life has been preserved.”
(32) The sun rose upon him as he passed Penuel, limping on his hip. (33) That is why the children of Israel to this day do not eat the thigh muscle that is on the socket of the hip, since Jacob’s hip socket was wrenched at the thigh muscle.
Guiding Questions:
1. The one detail the Torah tells us is that Jacob is alone--why do you think this is so important?
2. How is Jacob changed from this conflict? What do you know from this text? What do you remember from other sources?
3. Does this story of conflict and blessing relate to your life? If so, how?
(ה) וָיָּ֤שַׂר אֶל־מַלְאָךְ֙ וַיֻּכָ֔ל בָּכָ֖ה וַיִּתְחַנֶּן־ל֑וֹ בֵּֽית־אֵל֙ יִמְצָאֶ֔נּוּ ...׃
(5) [Jacob] wrestled with an angel and prevailed—
The other had to weep and plead with him.
At Bethel, they would meet.
ויאבק איש ...שֶׁהוּא שָׂרוֹ שֶׁל עֵשָׂו:
ויאבק איש AND A MAN WRESTLED — ... Our Rabbis explained that ish was Esau’s guardian angel.
ויאבק - מלאך עמו שלא יוכל לברוח ויראה קיום דברו של הקב"ה שלא יזיקהו עשו.
ויאבק, an angel engaged him in a physical fight, his purpose being to prevent Jacob from fleeing. Only in this way could G’d’s promise to Jacob that Esau would not harm him be fulfilled.
To wrestle is to be engaged, to be fully involved. Conflict requires that we turn, fully, to face the challenge before us. There are challenges that come from the outside and there are challenges that come from within--the depth of all challenges are rooted in our innermost selves. The ish can be Jacob's own shadow-self.
In the past, he has tricked others to get what he wants (think of his brother Esau, his father Isaac, or his uncle/father-in-law Laban) or has allowed himself to be tricked (think of his mother Rebecca or his uncle Laban). His response to being the trickster or being played the fool has been to run away--to flee from his responsibilities and from Jacob's shadow self.
Wrestling with the ish is the pinnacle of the Jacob story. This is the conflict that leaves him changed forever--with both a limp and a blessing. The two are intertwined.
The Guide:
1. Hosea is perhaps the oldest interpretation of our story. Does this add anything to our understanding? If so, what?
2. Rashi brings a completely different understanding. If the ish is Esau, Jacob's brother, how does that change the meaning of the wrestling?
3. Is Rashbam's opinion closer to Rashi or Hosea? What does his understanding add?
4. If we understand the ish as Jacob or his shadow self, what does this add to the understanding?
5. Which read resonates more for you? Why?
6. Finally, how could your understanding of the wrestling match impact the way you view your journey? How might it affect the way you approach conflict in your life?